Words by Ron Pringle.
In a world where traditions often fade away, there’s something enduring about passing down family customs across generations. Among these, one practice stands out: giving a silver canteen of cutlery to children upon their marriage. This custom not only bestows a precious heirloom, but also imparts the qualities essential for a thriving marriage.
For generations, my family has adhered to this unique tradition, wherein each child, upon tying the knot, receives a silver canteen. The act is made even more remarkable by the condition attached to the gift: the newlyweds must integrate the silver canteen into their daily lives, counting all the pieces after boozy dinner parties to make sure no wee spoons are left in the bin. They must have skin in the game by buying dishwasher-safe silver knives to match. This may be quite an outlay, but in my mind, it builds a better appreciation of their gift. Of greater importance perhaps, it allows every piece of flatware to be put in the dishwasher daily. Yes, it’s fine to put silver in the dishwasher; up to twice a day at Christmas in our house!
The significance of what might seem like a simple act lies in the underlying values of the metal. Silver symbolises purity and longevity – qualities essential for a successful marriage. By giving a silver canteen, the family not only bequeaths a tangible possession, but also imparts intangible virtues to the couple.
The freedom to choose the pattern adds a personal touch, allowing each child to express their individuality while honouring family custom. Regardless of its design, beans on toast will always taste better when eaten with silver cutlery.
Beyond symbolism, this tradition also carries practical benefits. Yes, silver tarnishes, but if used daily, polishing should be limited to twice a year at the most. In time, it can, and perhaps should, become an enjoyable “no-phones-allowed” family bonding experience reserved for one of our frequent rainy days. This transformation parallels the evolution of marriage itself – from the pristine beginnings to the seasoned beauty of enduring family love.
As I have seen with my own children, their silver canteen stands as a reminder of home and enduring value, which they carry with them as they move all around the world in their life’s journey. This tradition serves as a beacon of continuity in an ever-changing world, anchoring family bonds across generations.
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